feared or respected?

"is it better to be feared, or respected?

I say, is it too much to ask for both?"- iron man

Assalamualaikum..

this quote here is from the movie Iron Man, where Tony Stark made up a little speech for his weapon presentation.

to think about this quote,

i say that a leader would be either feared, or respected.

FEAR is somehow a mixed feeling of dread and reverence.

some may prefer themselves to be feared by others. however, how is it can we be feared by people who are not feared to anything and anyone? These types of people does exist. i would like to take a simple example of an officer who had moved from his bungalow to my hoste building. this particular officer, is someone whom i thought that i should respect. i actually called this particular officer 'ayah' on our first time meeting by the nearby beach. by giving such an address to an anonymous person i only knew over a night, would show such a respect from me towards this particular officer.

there is this particular event on friday morning, where he called all the first year students to gather at the lobby of our hostel. getting insomnia in the night before really gave me the unwillingness to get out of bed. so, because not all the boys gathered by the lobby on time, he decided to get upstairs to our floor and he actually scold us all. there are a few funny quotes that i heared from his scoldings.

"saya sepak awak karang!!"

"jangan kamu keras dengan kepala saya!!"

"biar la kawan awak yang sakit tu tido, awak kena turun!!" (padahal x sakit pn) 

"baru nak kencing!! baru nak basuh muka!!" (he saw some of us just entered the toilet)

there are a few more, but these are among which i remembered.

he probably scold us because it seems that we had lost respect towards him. and not to forget that he scolded me the day before for something i was blamed on without any investigations on the matter. scolding is an act to obtain fear among others.

i had really put my respect on this officer, but the way he acted for the past few days seems like he tried to be feared. for a person who wouldn't be feared by anyone or anything, respect is something should be obtained. and for some other reasons, i had lost my respect on him. and he tried to be feared, but it is just not teptness to fear someone else. no respect, and no fear on him. but there is one thing i still should respect him for, and that is for being a person more senior than me. mr officer, i respect you for your age.

but still, with your status and standart as a high ranked officer by the middle east, i think that you shouldn't be moved to this hostel. we return back our money to mara for some amount already. supposed that you should be staying in a nice villa with a nice seaside view where you can cook with your family and friends. not to live here with us in this very average hostel.

sigh..

forgive me for woken up late and i apologize for making you mad.